The Conversation
Elizabeth Day is the author of Friendaholic: Confessions of a Friendship Addict, available now in the UK. Today Elizabeth and Amanda share a down and dirty look at friendship, what is a true friend,getting ghosted, friend break-ups, and experiences they have shared in this murky area of friendship. Is losing a friendship always a bad thing; does it make you a bad friend, or can you heal and be better off without that friend? Find out in this episode.
IN THIS EPISODE:
- [02:56] Elizabeth analyzes friendships – superficial and genuine, and how she came to re-evaluate friendships through the eyes of covid
- [08:58] Coming to terms with friendships that are not active and how those can be viewed healthily. Experiencing grief when friendship disappears
- [14:21] You may be fulfilling a role in a friendship, whether you know it or not. The friendships we establish could be a result of a dysfunctional upbringing
- [20:08] Surviving by making friends, being ghosted and making peace with losing a friend
- [30:00] Statistics and the number of sustainable friendships possible. Establishing friendship barometers and the term non-consensual friendship
- [35:40] Some friends bring chaos continually, and at what cost to you
KEY TAKEAWAYS:
- Defining the language of friendship is not done when you first get to know someone. However, it should be to maintain the friendship you both enjoy.
- A friend may cast you in a role you neither want nor are aware of, making you an emotional hostage.
- The language of addiction speaks to that friend who is always in crisis and takes you with them. You are enabling them.
RESOURCES:
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Book: Friendaholic: Confessions of a Friendship Addict
QUOTES:
“True friendship empowers, enables and embraces the change and the evolution and the growth of both people.” - Elizabeth Day
“A non-consensual friendship is where you find yourself in a dynamic where you never wanted to commit to being this person’s full-blown friend. You were just being nice. Not trying to be rude. My book is an attempt to rectify the language of friendship.” - Elizabeth Day
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